Hindsight is not always 20/20

Posted: July 25, 2010 by Jesse in Friends, HIV
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I had an interesting conversation with a very special friend of mine this week.  He expressed regret about not starting a relationship with me a number of years ago.  He believes that if we had started a relationship I would not have contracted HIV, or experienced some of the more frustrating events in my life over the last few years…

Whilst I found this opinion incredibly sweet, it also distressed me somewhat.  We were always very close.  I would like to think that we still are and it saddens me that he can look back and regret a decision that was the right one at the time – especially considering a relationship was never even discussed or really sought after at the time.

They say hindsight is 20/20 however I think that in this case it has been distorted by this person wanting to be an amazing friend and take some of the pain out of my life.  I am so incredibly blessed to have this kind of friend.

I have been through some difficult experiences in the last few years, HIV being only one of them.  But I am not regretful of any of them. Each and every experience has allowed me to grow as a person and learn something new about life.

So to my dear friend, I thank you for looking out for me and always providing me with love and support.  But please don’t regret the past, I am thankful for it…  Life is a journey, and I would rather focus on the road ahead, rather then what has passed by.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to reflect back – that is what the rear-view mirror is for. But never regret.  The scenery was great, I learnt many things – things that will help me move forward with life and that is what I am thankful for.

  1. clearbluewindow says:

    It is very sweet of your friend to suggest that things may have turned out differently if you had been in a relationship. But things generally happen for a reason, and I am glad that you are able to see the positives when many others would get bogged down in the negatives.

    Stay true to yourself Jesse, and everything else will fall into place.

  2. Jesse says:

    Thanks Clearblue!

    It is incredibly sweet, I am so very fortunate to have friends like this, and a friend like you!

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