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Shelter

Posted: August 14, 2010 by Jesse in Family, Friends, Movie
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I’m back!

Sorry for the delay in getting something new up here. For my first post back, I am going to write about this incredible movie that my housemate introduced me to recently.

Shelter

Shelter

Shelter is a story about love and finding one’s self.  Zach (Trevor Wright) has let go of his dream of art school in order to look after his broken family.  His older sister Jeanne is more focused on parties and guys than her 5-year-old son, Cody, and she relies heavily on Zach to take care of him.

With best friend Gabe out of town, Zach goes out back of his friend’s house to get his surfboard when he bumps into Gabe’s older brother Shaun (Brad Rowe) who is back in town for an indefinite period of time to work on his book.  After spending time together Shaun starts to see much more to Zach than just his younger brother’s best mate, but rather an individual with an amazing artistic talent who admirably places the needs and wishes of his family before his own.

Shaun tries to guide Zach in following his own dreams and aspirations, and in doing so they develop an intimate bond that like any romance will jump on the rollercoaster ride of emotions as the story develops further.

Things finally start working out for them and Zach has to confront people’s curiosity about his association with an openly gay person.  He backs away from Shaun in an attempt to once again, be the structural support in the family foundations.

But how long can Zach deny himself of what he really wants?  Shaun, after-all has helped him understand himself better then anyone ever has. He accepts him as he is, and guides him to follow in his dreams.  And possibly most importantly to Zach, Shaun has a fantastic relationship with Cody…

When Zach receives a call from the Art school advising he has been accepted with full scholarship, it coincides with Jeanne’s request of Zach take a leading role in the raising of Cody. Zach again has to make the decision between taking care of Cody or to follow his dreams of attending art school. Or does he? Can he have both? Can Shaun fit into this?

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It is so refreshing to find a gay movie that isn’t all about sex, drugs and/or parties!

I think part of my connection to the movie is my own relationship with my family. I single-handedly maintained the relationships with them for years after I came out and there was no support from them. Over time they came to accept me to some degree – but the relationships have never been the same and I have come to accept that they probably never will be.

I had to make the realisation that the pain it was causing me to be in that situation just wasn’t worth it. That is part of the reason I packed up and moved to Brisbane. It was the best thing I have ever done in my life… To finally allow myself to be me, without the constant concern about how others would think of me.

I have friends, and some great ones at that. However after years of feeling more or less excluded. I have never really felt that I belong.  This is really hard for me to explain, so stay with me on this one.  I have more or less been my own person since I was about 14 years old.  I’ve had to travel many aspects of my life without any real support or guidance.  So even though I do have these amazing people in my life I always have this sense that I am different and never really connected.

Whilst I’m not religious or anything, I do have a belief that life only throws at one what he or she can handle. I developed this attitude quite a while ago and I live by it. I am a hard worker in all aspects of my life, and I will continue to be so I can deal with each new day as it comes to the very best of my ability. Although what’s that quote?

“Life’s a box of chocolates, You never know what you’re gonna get”.

I think a part of it is that all through life we are gaining new insights and developing new values and beliefs. We are ever-changing beings – evolving independently every day.

Lastly, What is there not to love about Shaun? This kind of guy has gotta be too good to be true yeah?

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